Saturday, 17 October 2015

The cheater and cheated

Let's face it.. Monogamous gay relationships don't exist.. Stomach it whether you like it or not.. 

When I was younger (not that I'm that old), I used to think that you can only be with someone one person at a time.. Oh boy was I proven so wrong about it many years later.. 

I was this young newbie in all these gay relationships thingy right from a sweet tender age of 17.. 

I admit, several boyfriends later in the last 15 years or so, it's only human and gay nature to cheat - once in a while or consistently or whatever.. There is no true monogamy.. Don't tell me in all those years you guys are together, there's not once, not even once that something got out of hand.. Don't have to admit it, we all have our skeletons, some, out in the open..

I've been cheated with, I've been cheated on and more importantly, I've cheated as well..

Did I lose my belief? No. 

So what really happened there? 

Those of you who have been through a cheating process knows what's going on.. Whether or not you agree with me, that's another story altogether.. Some of you think there's room for another person, while some of you walk away.. There is no right or wrong way to deal with it, there is only your stand that you have to deal with.. 

Grew bored? In need of excitement? He's more attractive? Something new? Or you just have fallen out of love.. There's plenty of reasons why we gays sway.. 

And we all know it.. 

However you deal with it, if you feel it's right, then it's the right thing to do.. And if you choose to walk away, hold you head up high and walk away with dignity - and at the same time, give your blessings and don't ever even try to get even.. 

I've said it before and I will say it again, "if you have to fight for love, you have already lost it"..

To those who are in a relationship, treasure your present moments because nothing is forever.. And if and when things don't work out anymore, just end it and walk away.. 

To those who have been cheating, spare one of them the agony of having to find out about the other sooner or later.. If all 3 (or more) of you are okay with expansion plans, then it's not cheating.. 

To those who have been heartbroken and cheated on, it's not the end of the world.. Heal it, move on and love again.. You may not love the same way again or as much as before but your new boyfriend deserves your future not your past..

To those who are single, this don't apply to you.. It's called one-night-stands, or trials, or whatever, not cheating, especially when you start dating again.. That is, until you decide to go steady.. 



  1. Wah! I like this post. Simple, straightforward, and honest writing. You should write more from your personal experiences.

    1. Thanks Calvin..
      Day in day out I have friends coming to me crying their heart out, that I felt compelled to write something about it, and being through cheating from all angles, I know how it felt like to be the victim, to be the cheater and to be the 3rd person.. More so when friends you care about is going through and yet can't do anything about it..


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